Have you ever felt like something was a good idea until you had to face the consequences of your decision? Why would we ever prefer good over God’s best? Were we being impatient? Did we grow weary in the process? In our search of answers, did we rely on ourselves and begin to cherish our privacy and independence to the point that we had isolated ourselves from community?
A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment. Proverbs 18:1
In my own journey of developing community and fellowship, I discovered the need and healthiness of being with others in the Christian faith. Leaning, gleaning, and believing with those that God has brought around you equips us for the journey! Not only is it biblical, it is the life that Jesus has called us to and one of the greatest commandments.
Jesus says, in John 15:12
“This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.” John 15:12
Love is more than unconditional love that wraps its arms around someone that is hurting. It is also tough love that holds one fast to the truth and directs His sons and daughters when we begin to veer from what we know is God’s best for us.
Some of us have that person or group of people in our lives that are that strong voice. Much of what I have learned and benefited from in my walk with the Lord has come through other believers that made a choice to invest in me personally. These mentoring relationships can come in different forms. In Just Lead, Sherry Surratt breaks these down in a way that was easy for me to comprehend. There are peer mentors, spiritual mentors, the mentor you will never meet and specialized mentors. Peer Mentors are individuals who are in a similar stage of life as you and are passionate about growing in the same way. Spiritual mentors are a voice of wisdom and counsel who will challenge you spiritually. They are the mentors that you will never meet, who speak to you through blogs, books, and social media that can develop you personally. The final area is a specialized mentor. This is someone who has strengths in certain areas that you could learn from to continue your growth as a leader. God makes it very clear that he has called us to healthy relationships within the Body of Christ. Where there is accountability, there is responsibility. Our responsibility is to pursue these relationships, with diligence, but also allow for flexibility as our seasons in life change.
He said,” Go and make disciples and teach them all things I have commanded you.” Matthew 28:20
I believe Acts 2:42 gives us a picture of what community looks like with accountable relationships. The believers continued on steadfast in several ways. All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper), and to prayer. It’s so vital that if we are going to grow in Him and experience the fullness of His joy that we take heed to Hebrews 3:12-14. It cautions us to stand firm, don’t waver, don’t be deceived, or harden yourselves towards God. It challenges us to remain faithful to the end, trusting God as when we first believed. Believers in accountability don’t watch one another, they watch out for one another. It is the “ I got your back” mentality! Hebrews 10: 23-25 encourages us to not waver, but motivate one another in acts of love and good works. Most importantly, don’t forsake meeting together as some do! Embrace the good, the bad, and the ugly! Life is better together with His sons and daughters!
Take time to reflect on who He has surrounded you with and the resources that He has provided you through your current community. Maybe this is an area that you feel is lacking. Whatever the case, begin praying and asking Him to define what you need during this season. He is sure to deliver in His timing! He is faithful!
Life Groups Assistant Director